Settling for selfishness

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Last night as we were lying in bed, just about to fall asleep, Rod told me, “I just want to do everything I can to make you happy.” I realized that I have never heard those words from a man before. I also realized that I never thought I would hear those words from a man because I truly did not know that there were unselfish men out there. I honestly believed that all men were selfish and would much prefer to do something for themselves, rather than something for that special someone in their life.

In all of my long-term relationships, the only really nice things that my guy did for me was only because it was convenient for him. If it wasn’t convenient, it wouldn’t get done. The worst was my ex-husband, or at least it seems like that was the worst, maybe because it was the most recent. When I got into an accident and my car was not driveable, do you think he came to help me? He wouldn’t even leave work to go let the dog out so I didn’t worry about her, and he only worked 15 minutes from home. He never went out of his way to do anything for me, and I never believed that he would ever do anything to purposefully make me happy. So why would I put up with that? Well, I didn’t think it got any better. I have always wanted to be with a man who would go out of his way to make me happy, but since I never had that, and rarely even heard my friends tell stories of their guy doing that, I didn’t think there were men out there who would do that.

Over the weekend, Rod brought over a goodie bag of presents he got for my dog. How sweet is that! And he even looked at the ingredients on the treats because he knows that I am a vegetarian and try to eat healthy so he went out of his way to try to find dog treats that fit my personal lifestyle. I love that!

Even though I went through some bad relationships, I feel so blessed right now! Things can turn around so quickly so if you are going through a rough time, you never know when things could brighten! It can happy faster than you think! :)

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About dinkschildfree

I am a 32 year old, professional, divorced female living in the Cleveland area. I have decided that I am enough for myself and do not need children to complete my life. I decided as a teenager that I would like a childfree life. I have a Bachelor's of Science from Kent State University and work in the non-profit field. I have a great love of animals and love to watch nature shows and Jack Hanna. I also enjoying exercising and doing active things, like hiking, volleyball and kickball. I also love to read, with Dean Koontz, Robin Cook and Jeffery Deaver being my favorite authors. I am also a huge Beatles fan!

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  1. A success story at last! So pleased for ypu. Check out my blog for new book Mr Wrong, “a humorous and insightful exploration into why some women continually attract Mr Wrong and negative relationships and how to break the chain and set out on a path to Mr Right.” Here you can find some excerpts, opinions and views, both male and females and other women’s stories. I’d love to hear your views and perhaps your story to finding Rob (Mr Unselfish.) ;)

    dingdongitsmrwrong.WordPress.com :)

    • dingdongitsmrwrong – I will definitely check out your blog! I’m not sure I would call my relationship with Rod a success just yet. It has only been 3 months. But I feel great about my future nonetheless and I haven’t been happier in my whole life. Now that I have a taste for happiness I won’t settle for anything less!

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